You try to be the best. Best parent. Best spouse/partner/lover (and if you’re poly, please multiply here appropriately). Best worker/student/co-worker. Best community member/leader. Best neighbor. Best family member … Best friend. But what about you to you? Stop beating yourself up! Why are you metaphorically slapping yourself silly? It’s time to talk about the gritty, dirty, hard parts of trying to please others--and forgetting (or ignoring) your own needs.