Parents who care for young children all have those moments of longing to be alone for just an hour, half an hour, fifteen minutes, five... What no one told me was that once the fledglings flee the nest the longing reverses, and the five minutes, a quarter hour, half an hour, whole becomes the parent's…Continue
I hadn't expected my New Year's resolution to taunt me so early in the year, least of all not while gingerly picking my way through snow and ice and mud. But there it was: "BE PRESENT," my resolution all but shouted at me.
In my book, resolutions and goals are different animals. I like to think of goals…Continue
It's that time of year when I venture to places other than growers' markets and cyberspace to purchase goods -- buying gifts that get wrapped and bowed and lovingly placed under a lighted tree in my abode. Now, I appreciate that for some people, shopping is its own reward, but for me, shopping takes away from…Continue
Last Saturday afternoon, during the sunny interregnum between the rain and the snow, my neighbor Ivan banged hard on my front door and stomped on the floorboards of my front porch. (There was no emergency, this just what you do when you have a deaf neighbor with a propensity for turning off the world…Continue
As Barelas starts to ready for Las Posadas de Barelas (on December 19 this year), I've been organizing my preparations for this event. It starts with a list of people to invite to mi casa for the annual pre-Posadas open house gathering, where we fill up on posole and enchiladas before heading out in…Continue
Added by Barelas Babe on December 7, 2015 at 11:00am — No Comments
Albuquerque's Sunport and one of my favorite childhood cookies, mamool, have been virally memorialized on social media in Naomi Shihab Nye's poem, Gate A-4. Even though I usually fly on the B terminal, I always recall this poem as…Continue
Added by Barelas Babe on November 24, 2015 at 11:30am — No Comments
Repairing rifts is part of the work of that families do -- you can learn a lot about a family by how it approaches these difficult situations. Some families bury the rift and never talk about the pain under the surface; some families erupt with anger every so often before stuffing the genie back into the…Continue
Added by Barelas Babe on November 16, 2015 at 10:30am — No Comments
Some Novembers steal away autumn's glorious foliage in one storm; other November months are like burlesque dancers, removing items according to a carefully chosen plan designed to entice and titillate. Not that I'm comparing the natural beauty of the bosque to the beauty of human artifice (that's umm,…Continue
As I was making my coffee this morning, I looked out the window and saw La Calavera Catrina driving a hearse down my street. I blinked twice, and the driver became my…Continue
Today kicks off the first day of the International Week of the Deaf. Did you know that know that signed language linguists the world over know Albuquerque because of the pioneering work in signed language linguistics done…Continue
A short while ago I was hiking in the Sandias when I came across a notice that I've seen at trailheads all over the west this summer: No Drones Allowed. It made me wonder whether, as a deaf woman, I've missed something that people with species-typical hearing would note. Are there indeed drones plaguing the…Continue
Labor Day, brought to you by the folks who gave you the weekend. Or so the saying goes. Now, I don't know about you, but for years my weekends have involved cramming in trips to the store, cleaning house, visiting family, working on the yard, and doing community service du jour. (This could be anything…Continue
When someone threatens to commit suicide, what should you do? I've been teaching a course on the ethics of death and dying this year, and my students have been wrestling with this question as budding ethicists and philosophers. The default answer is to get someone help, and that carries with it the benefit of…Continue
One thing about having a family underfoot is that cooking becomes a major part of one's afternoon and evening hours. At least, that was the case for us, since we had a steadfast rule about eating at the dining room table and developing the art of conversation. Sometimes it devolved into ten year old fart…Continue
Added by Barelas Babe on March 30, 2015 at 11:31am — No Comments
What makes a disability a disability? This was one of the questions discussed at the Women of the World Poetry Slam panel "How to Break a Line: Disability, Chronic Illness, and Other Poems" last Saturday. The panelists covered the gamut of disability, from sensory impairment (deafness) to chronic illness to…Continue
Added by Barelas Babe on March 23, 2015 at 10:30am — No Comments
For almost 20 years I have worked at my dining room table. Now that I finally have an office, made possible by the flight of my own young who have left to build their nests, I still return to this comfortable spot where I have written tens of thousands of words.
I like this spot because of the window…Continue
Growing up in southern California meant that I didn't really understand all the fuss about spring. I now understand this better, having weathered some east coast and Rocky Mountain winters -- even our mild-to-the-rest of the country winters seem harsh to me.
The harbinger of spring in most parts of the…Continue
...such calamities have at all times attended, and will at all times attend, the human race, and that they constantly recur in forms more or less disastrous, varying only in the scenes, occasions, and persons on whom they light...
Augustine, The City of…Continue
Added by Barelas Babe on February 16, 2015 at 1:13pm — No Comments
Nostalgia is peppered with sensory memories. (See what I did there?) We know that hearing is one of the last senses to go, and that a whiff of a bubblegum wrapper can transport us back to second grade.
There are numerous websites devoted to what New Mexicans miss when we are away from the Land of…Continue
Partly because I saw a movie, Wetlands (trailer is NSFW), over the weekend that would be an interesting first date litmus test for many things. The final showing is tonight,…Continue