The two most important parts of a movie. The two most important parts of a marathon. The two most important parts of a book. The two most important parts of life...kind of.
Ok so life is definitely more complicated than a beginning and an end but those are the two parts the majority of people remember. Somehow, all the stuff that happened in between gets lost. Memories become blurs and time lines become irrelevant. Pero por que? Shouldn't the *dash be the most important part? The substance, the filling, the carne, la vida, this is what should be remembered. Like the story of Martin Luther King Jr. or John F. Kennedy. Everyone remembers their dash. I want to start remembering people's dash. I want people to remember my dash, not just the beginning or just the end.
I think people focus too much on beginnings and endings, and maybe that is why people get so emotional over both. If we shifted our focus on the dash, it would be easier to deal with. I personally have issues with beginnings and endings. Both scare me, but for different reasons. Both require trusting the unknown. Both require strength, inner strength. When it comes down to it, I have to learn how to psych myself out about it. The mind is a powerful machine which is something I have come to learn now that I have experienced intense beginnings and intense endings. The circle of life is a lie. Circles don't have beginnings or endings. But life does. Life has chapters. Chapters have beginnings and endings. Chapters contain friendships and relationships. Friendships and relationships have beginnings and endings. Those are the hardest beginnings and endings for me to deal with.
One thing that I believe in my heart is that love is one thing that does not have a beginning nor and end. For me, love is unconditional. Once I have loved someone or something, I can never stop loving it. Even if there is an ending of a life, an ending of a chapter or and ending of a friendship or relationship, it does not mean that the love involved has ended. Sometimes I wonder if my heart will ever run out of room, but honestly, I don't think its close to being even halfway full yet. Thats scary.
Lasnight, I had a dream about going to see a much anticipated movie with all my closest friends. We were lucky enough to find a row of seats together. Just as the movie was about to start I had to pee. I got up and rushed to the bathroom trying to hurry so I didn't miss the beginning because if I missed the beginning the middle wouldn't make sense. Somehow, I ended up waiting in line for the entire movie. I missed all of it. One of my friends would send me video snippets she recorded on her phone that I watched while waiting in line. I got and idea of what the movie was about but then she stopped sending them to me. I didn't know how it ended. It was the most bizarre dream I've ever had. I knew it was a dream about something more than missing a movie.
I just remembered a quote: "When you were born, you were crying and everyone else around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you're the one who is smiling and everyone else around you is crying." This represents how people focus too much on beginnings and endings. At first glance it seems like an inspiring quote but after a while, its very superficial.
I am not Dr.Martin Luther King Jr, I am not Che Guevara but I have always wondered what it would feel like to start a revolution. The one I start may not be of the same magnitude as theirs but if I can get people to start remembering the dash instead of just the beginning or the end, then it will be a successful revolution nonetheless.
* The dash. The dash is that symbol that is engraved on our tombstones, carved between the date of our birth and our last day on this earth. It symbolizes the span of our entire life; all that we have lived, loved and learned, yet it is the most overlooked.