Social Amnesia.

I suffer from it. I intend to go, do, participate, and at the moment of action, I've forgotten. Well, I forget some of the times. Other times I use "OH NO! I forgot all about it!" to mask some other reason, usually some kind of misfit feeling that discourages from being around other people. No offense, strangers, but sometimes you just don't cut it, not even for this party-lovin' señorita.

As it turns out, I find that I'm not the only one who occasionally *wants* to do something but finds herself uninspired to go. Sometimes it's the heat. Sometimes it's the long drive. Sometimes it's the strangers (again, no offense). All the same, sometimes we all have an excuse to piss away a perfectly lovely afternoon watching TV or surfing the 'net instead of going on an adventure. For me, missing events like the New Mexico Wine Festival is usually the result of some such thinking, either by me or the people I'd most likely go with. Or sometimes I made plans. Sometimes I'm out of cash. Most of the time, I just "forget" that I wanted to go.

The 2009 NM Wine Festival proved to be one of those opportunities again this year. Unlike years past, however, I went. I didn't go alone, either!

Fellow co-conspirators seen here.

The festival proved to be a great afternoon of friendship, laughter and the excitement of this being just like but not quite like every other day. I had a great time, and I posted some more about it here.

I can't say that my Social Amnesia is cured forever, but I'm grateful for good friends, a sunny day and yummy wine.

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Tags: amnesia, blog, community, culture, drinking, festival, friends, social, society, wine

Comment by Master of Disaster on September 11, 2009 at 11:28am
I suffer from the same disease and almost always feel better when I decide to just get up and go. Glad you had a good time.
Comment by cathyray on September 11, 2009 at 8:52pm
Senorita, you must be inside my head. I always plan stuff, things that I would really enjoy if I really went. But at the last second for some insane reason I don't go. On the few occasions I have forced myself to go I've had a great time and been sorta mad at myself for not going more often. I thought it was just me. I'm so glad you posted. I am so happy to realize that I am not the only one. I'll see something coming up & think wow, I'd really like to participate but when it comes time to actually get dressed & out of the house something inside me decides to stay home. Thank God I have friends that understand how I am & don't give me too much grief but it bugs the heck out of me cuz I know I miss a lot of fun stuff. Thanks so much for posting. It came at me at the exact right moment. Funny how things work out when we let them.
Comment by Christie Mc on September 11, 2009 at 9:52pm
Senorita & Cathray--you both must be eavesdropping on my psyche! I'm very much the same way, and I've always given myself a hard time for it. I admire that you just called it what it is and put it out there, Senorita! For some reason, knowing others are like that and they own it doesn't make me feel so bad! I can always do it if it involves hiking or being outside in a small gathering (as opposed to a large crowd) And, you're so right--getting out and away is good for the soul. It's kinda like my yoga classes--I'm not always in the mood to go, but I've never once wished I would have stayed home after I've gone! Thanks for sharing!
Comment by Rob Creighton Garrison on September 12, 2009 at 10:30am
I love THINKING about doing stuff. The execution of the desire is the tough part. When invited to do something by people with whom I'm not that familiar, I make vague oh-cool-sounds-like-fun-let-me-check-with-the-wife-first noises and then hope they forget. When the time of the proposed event has passed, I'll slap my forehead and utter the hackneyed excuses and hope they don't get the wrong impression of me, that impression being the correct one of course, that I'm a commitment-phobe who can't even lie gracefully.

We should all get together and talk about this. Really. Okay, nah, I have stuff too...
Comment by Adobe Nido Bed & Breakfast on September 12, 2009 at 5:15pm
Wow. If I did HALF of what I planned to do I would be a very busy girl and 40lb lighter. Sometimes the "planning on it" was the fun part anyway. Most of the time...if i actually forgot, I don't remember for a long time after the opportunity has past. No harm, no foul! No mind!
Comment by Lee on September 15, 2009 at 7:01am
Interesting, how many of us there are that are like this..thanks for bringing this up. I feel better about my social quirk already.
HEY... we should all get together sometime....

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