From the Two Whos
Yun’s kids were with their father’s family up in Taos skiing and left the single mother home alone for several days right after the New Year. Missing her kids has become part of the her life now. No matter what she is missing her kids.
On the bright side, she gets a lots done. After the kids were gone for three days, one late afternoon, Yun felt a bit hungry. She went downstairs to get some food. She ate the food while playing with the kittens and picking up the scattered toys. When she put the dish in the sink, to her amazement, there was only one plate, one bowl, and one cup in there. She was home most of the time besides an outing (not dating), a dance lessen, a trip to the mall and salon... With kids around, a load of dish washing would have been demanded by now...
“Wow, I do not generate much dishes when kids are not here.” she thought. “ I do not do much either besides work. That must be what people mean when they say you ‘not have a life’. I've got to get a life!”
“Wait a minute, what are the standards of ‘not having a life’ or having too much of a life.” She started to laugh with herself, “Can I be happy without having a life?” “Can I Have a life without being happy? Can I Be happy with having a life? Not being happy without having a life?” In her physicist self, she exhausted the four possible combinations of “life” and “happy” based on mathematical calculations! Cece is exhausted thinking of the combinations! LOL!
The life of a single mother has the rhythms of ups and downs, all the excitement and franticness of the one day when the kids are around, then the quiet and silence next when they are at their dad's house. Learning how to enjoy this dance between silence and self ...and motion and children is a life skill she has learned to develop.
Having or not having a life is a personal matter and a subjective assessment.... just like having joy or not having joy. Hopefully, we have the power to choose the life we enjoy no matter what the circumstances are.
Her happily married sister and mother of two is having a New Years resolution: “Party less, read more”. Yun decided to adopt the semi-opposite resolution : “Party more, read more” but with the intention to keep the dirty dish quotas low and the happy-o-meter high.
Be happy, because life never stops happening. What do you think?
“Bye for Now” from the Two Whos