Best Online Personals Site?

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Permalink Reply by killbox on May 12, 2008 at 1:16am

I kind of like ok-cupid, Ive met a few very interesting local people there, and for the most part atleast as friends matching goes its pretty good, about 8 out of 20 of my top matches are people I know and like.

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Permalink Reply by Benny the Icepick on May 12, 2008 at 3:52pm

How about right here on DCF? Start up a "Singles" group and orchestrate local events for DCF singles (there are plenty of us) to meet up?

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Permalink Reply by olliecat4 on May 12, 2008 at 4:19pm

Hey, Benny-- I think that DCF would be a fantastic site to look for other "hip" singles, so GO FOR IT, fellow cat-grrrl--start a group, why don't cha?!

Hope it's OK to add my little semi-related interest on your post, TCatND...
I have actually been considering starting a friends of DCF "get 2 know ya" group (for Albq. newbies and for those of us who just really like living here), just to meet other local awesomes. I am happily married, but find that it can be difficult to meet other folks in a way that doesn't involve church, bars, craigslist "strictly platonic" personals or pricey restaurants.
I'm not young enough to club, and I only drink on occasion. I'm not interesting enough to join a book club, and am not in any type of shape to be thinking the gym's the way to go! SO many barriers! (Most of this is significantly exaggerated, but you get the picture; I'm just a cool chica with varied interests; none of which make me a good candidate for "clubs" of any kind.)
Thoughts, fellow/fella DCF-ers? Would love to hear if anyone would be interested in being involved in this sort of thing...
Thanks for letting me get a bit off topic, Cat. I'm sure you'll have No problem finding cool "others" to snuggle with soon! Buena Suerte!

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Permalink Reply by Kitson Harvey on May 12, 2008 at 4:42pm

I think we'd be interested in a get-together. We used to do these semi-frequently, and then all the admins got, I don't know, jobs or something. There's always this Friday's craftacular opening, too. We could all meet up there!

Cat: I say go for it. Benny's been trying to get someone on this site to start a singles group for AGES. Put the boy out of his misery.

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Permalink Reply by Benny the Icepick on May 12, 2008 at 5:06pm

As if I were the only one, Ms. Harvey?

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Permalink Reply by Jennifer Jane on May 12, 2008 at 5:32pm

This is hilarious- sure I'll start one. Any ideas before I do? Such as- what would Benny like to see happen?

My idea is basically to have a totally orientation-open group forum, people can post BASIC ads if they wish, then maybe form a singles night out (it doesnt have to be obvious who is going per se- some people are shy- it can be vague like thursday night at chama down town, or something) see who comes, etc.

Any other ideas?

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Permalink Reply by Albuquerque Commentator on May 12, 2008 at 6:13pm

hmmm would it only be open to persons of certain orientations or everyone?

craigslist isn't exactly ideal and potentially dangerous

i can think a place that would be supportive of an any gender / orientation meetup ... people would have to be over 21

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Permalink Reply by Jennifer Jane on May 12, 2008 at 6:24pm

Well, my idea would be for any orientation- gay, bi, lesbian, trans and of course straight. Free for all.

Over 21 sounds good, too.

Any other thoughts?

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Permalink Reply by Kitson Harvey on May 12, 2008 at 6:30pm

The most important decision WHENEVER online singles ads are involved:

What photo will you use?
For the group, that is.

Groups with photos get the most interest!

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Permalink Reply by dolores on June 24, 2008 at 8:17pm

Well put Olliecat, I very much relate to your post. So many barriers. I am at that awkward, in between stage.

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Permalink Reply by Benny the Icepick on May 12, 2008 at 6:30pm

Cats and kitties all over this thread... hope I'm not allergic.

I think you've got the right idea about inclusivity, and for that reason I think the under-21 crowd should be welcome.

I'm of the opinion that this shouldn't be a meat market so much as a forum for discussing single life in the Burque. We all have our profiles, people can tell a lot about us from that. Just being IN the group should be enough to make a few connections.

The group itself shouldn't serve as an online personals site, but facilitate meetings where the singles of Albuquerque can meet face-to-face in an open, no-pressure group environment. Let things run from there.

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Permalink Reply by megs on May 12, 2008 at 6:40pm

I like this idea...it's hard to meet single types at places other than bars, etc and in my experience that's not really optimal for meeting my preferred nerdy-type guys.

Also agreed on the 'not-meat market' setup. It'd be nice to meet some new friends who aren't hitched/nearly hitched just to have a wider variety of folks to hang out with (and thus not have to worry about the availability of both partners for adventures, camping trips, etc). And hell, if I meet somebody cool to date that's a nice bonus.

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