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Best Online Personals Site?
Hey- I'm a heteroflexible female newly single and new to the 505. My former city is known for awesome personals sites (mostly "hip" places like nerve.com) but I find these places lacking here in ABQ.
Where does one go that weeds out the usual Yahoo/Match.com/boring personals-goers? I'm young, in the film biz, as hipster as you can be for here, looking for like-minds to snuggle with, maybe more.. Do tell.
Where does one go that weeds out the usual Yahoo/Match.com/boring personals-goers? I'm young, in the film biz, as hipster as you can be for here, looking for like-minds to snuggle with, maybe more.. Do tell.
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Permalink Reply by Benny the Icepick on -
I suppose if I want to put all sorts of qualifiers into it, I should just start the group myself.
Hopefully you won't object, TCND. I'll make you an administrator.
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Permalink Reply by Albuquerque Commentator on -
My suggestion was going to be that if a group formed on here it follow the general format of the MeetUp.com style groups.
My suggestion for a place would be the Albuquerque Social Club ( NobHill) , though it is a "gay" club it is really a mix of people and very laid back. Yes they have a bar ( why it's 21+), however it is private membership ( a whole $20 per year ) but that is not the focus generally. The drinks, whether it is the usual or fruit juice cocktail are inexpensive relative to the commercial bar scene because it is non-profit.
It's neighborhood oriented and has been around since 1978 ... they even have a sound system and a dance floor. Everyone is comfortable in their own skin what ever that maybe.
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Permalink Reply by Jennifer Jane on -
Personally, I've never been.. My homo-pals love it, except for one small (big) problem: since it's private, people smoke inside. Now, I smoke when I drink, but I dont like going home smelling like the bar. Some people dont mind but I totally hate it- number one reason I havent gone.
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Permalink Reply by ridin on -
Oh, cool! A place where I need to pay to be a member so I can pay for drinks while people smoke at me. Rockin!
Why aren't there more like it...?
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Permalink Reply by Benny the Icepick on
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Here we go...
The Single LIfe.
Join and I'll make you an administrator, as I'm not always on DCF to handle necessary updates.
Also, anyone who finds a better picture, I'll buy you a drink at the first meet up.
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Permalink Reply by Benny the Icepick on
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Why restrict ourselves to one place to meet? That's the beauty of having an online meeting place - we can arrange multiple group 'dates.' To the bar, to the zoo, to a concert... by mixing it up, we keep things interesting. Since not everyone in the group will have the same comfort level in any one place, we allow for inclusivity by going enough places that everyone is in their element at one point or another.
But perhaps this is a discussion that needs to take place in the group itself...
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Permalink Reply by Stephanie on -
My hope is that this gets going, so that I can nudge my single friends into being social again. It's tough to be single here.
I would not recommend the Social Club for a younger, single event. The many decades of smoke in the place really doesn't smell nice. It's also a much older crowd (last time I saw it).
Hey, can you go back and edit a thread title? This seems to be morphing into a "let's make a singles group" thread.
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Permalink Reply by cynthia on -
I agree. I definitely think the online sites are better for hetero singles than for lesbians at least. There aren't many lesbians on the sites given the population here, and the ones who are on don't post pics...lame. Lots of women are already coupled here, I think.
I am excited about a singles group, and I like the idea of rotating meeting places. How about starting with a simple happy hour and having regular happy hours in addition to events?
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Permalink Reply by Albuquerque Commentator on
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You can arrange an event, the crowd is very mixed nowadays since Pulse has closed, lots of new younger members.
This is probably the subject of another thread but it would be an interesting discussion about ageism in social communities.
I understand the stogy reputation of the past.
There is a fairly steady flow of upgrading, painting etc. There is smoking because it is a private club. I don't smoke and have not found it to be overwhelming. But your right about it and you will find a movement among some board member to upgrade further. The board is also open to st8 persons, actually has had a st8 board member in the recent past.
Like anything it's what you make of it and what scale you want it to be socially or esthetically.
I suggested it because it's a venue that is very open to everyone.
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Permalink Reply by dolores on -
Why would it have to be singles? Why not just a DCF club house, so to speak?
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Permalink Reply by Albuquerque Commentator on
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:) i think it is probably a matter then of people wearing a sign or something so as not to create any awkward situations where "singles" don't commingle inappropriately with those who are paired.
Originally the thread was geared to meeting other unpaired ( is there a word that is inclusive of the polyamorous? ) people, but I also think there is opportunity for something more general and focused more as a community group who are interested in the type of communications DCF offers. No reason to exclude either approach.
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Permalink Reply by Kitson Harvey on -
We can do both, but the singles group should be for singles, no?
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