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Interestingly enough, my first semester teaching as a full-time tenure track professor in Washington DC, I had not one but TWO young widows with hearing loss and young children as students! When the first one came to me to ask for an extension on an assignment, and then explained why, I teared up even though it was 15 years after the fact for me. The second one gave me goosebumps when she came in.
Since then I have met four other young widows/moms students at my university - I remember the kindness of my professors when I was a fulltime student dealing with litigation and a toddler, and I am glad to finally be in a position where I can help others. (Though of course, as you say, it is not a club that anyone wants to belong to.)
I agree about smells - I can't ever smell creosote or new fallen rain on the desert without thinking of my late husband. And I STILL tense up and account for loved ones any time I see a police car parked on my street - the police came to my door late at night to notify me almost 19 years ago.
The other thing that I did not anticipate to be a trigger was movement - once in a while my son will do something exactly like his biological father, and is just catches me off guard. Bittersweet.
On another note, thanks for your kind words re: my blog. I have fun with it.
Be well,
BB
My thoughts are with you on the loss of your son. The pain never goes away entirely, does it? And those moments that catch one off guard are the ones that are toughest to get through...
Great photographs...
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